Let Go of Fears That Keep You Frozen

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=moSFlvxnbgk   (Watch before reading)

This scene from the movie “Frozen” emulates such an empowering and important point that I hope everyone gets a chance to experience. In this scene, Elsa is finally coming to terms with her individuality and celebrating it. After years of concealing it she finally broke free from the chains of insecurity and the fear of uniqueness. Before this scene Elsa encountered a life shattering moment of vulnerability when people found out the secret (magical powers) she tried so hard to hide. This caused her to completely fall apart then finally escape the walls of the kingdom of which she felt so confined to.

Through-out this song you can watch her slowly start to discover what she’s capable of once she let her guard down. She started creating beautiful things and even impressing herself! And that is something that we all need to do more of. Even if we aren’t quite comfortable with showing the world who we are, it’s still an incredible step to remind ourselves of who we really are. A large danger with hiding behind a facade is that we get really comfortable with it and start feeling uneasy in our real skin. That makes self-love extremely difficult. But if we at least give ourselves a chance to understand that we can shine –even if alone- then that’s a lot better than never knowing.

At the end of the day we all have our own super powers. We all have something we’re afraid to show the world because we’re afraid that it won’t be accepted or we’ll be put down for it. It’s like we’re all wearing our own superhero costumes underneath our clothes at all times and only sometimes do we show parts of it. At (3:18) Elsa opens her arms up wide with confidence about who she is. She walks with pose while singing “here I am” and finishes the song with a statement of true integrity.  I strongly believe that Elsa is above all other Disney princesses or characters for that alone. She battles not with a sword or leads an army, but conquers an internal fight using tools of dignity, love and finding her own strength.

The world isn’t really against us – we’re against the world.

Self-pity likes to take a toll on us in the moments where we try on an outfit and it doesn’t fit the way we wanted it to. It attacks when we see someone getting straight A’s in a class where we’re failing. It strikes when we see pictures from a party on Facebook that we weren’t invite to. Self-pity is a devilish place that we way too often resort to when dealing with our problems.

There are a lot of situations that we deal with that just seem unfair. But the most unjust thing on this planet is the lack of self-belief we have in ourselves. We’ve come to a point where it’s more popular to just sit there and complain about things in our lives instead of actually changing them! I think a good place for us to start is learning the difference between recognizing our insecurities and giving into them. Recognizing is a strength in understanding ourselves and what goals we need to make. Giving into insecurities allows it to not only ruin our self-worth, but also our quality of life.

Wouldn’t it be great to wake up every morning and be excited about the new day? Wouldn’t it be great if we looked in a mirror and loved everything reflecting back? Wouldn’t it be great to live the life we always dreamed of having? The best part is that it’s all attainable! It’s up to us to make the decision to get out of that bottomless pit of self-pity by setting goals for ourselves! If our physique is our hold back, then tie up those running shoes and start running! If our grades make us not feel good enough, then we need to crack open that textbook instead of scrolling through twitter! If being around a certain group of people makes us feel uncool or excluded all the time, then it’s time for us to start looking for new friends. We make the choice to sit in a pool of self-pity, so why not choose to turn our lives back in our favour?!

Things can only hurt us if we give it permission to. So this week’s challenge is to look at ourselves in the mirror, diagnose what it is that’s holding us back from living the life we always wanted, and start making goals to conquer it! Life is all about choices, so it’s important that we make the most healthy and happiest ones.

“Why are you going to choose failure when success is an option?”- Jillian Micheals